5 Reasons Why Teaching Chores is Valuable For Kids October 30 2014
- Implementing a chore system that requires children to do tasks around the house helps define structure and consistency to expectations. You can establish routines: daily morning chores, help mom with the evening meal, chores after school or dinner, and Saturday chores when you have a bit more time. The consistency in the routines creates the practice which forms the habit of helping.
- When you implement a system of chores that are daily for all children but then also have jobs that rotate, children learn fairness - everyone who is part of the household learns to contribute to helping it run smoothly and that means everyone takes turns at the more distasteful tasks.
- Requiring chores builds accountability and the opportunity for children to learn responsibility. We want to have our children grow to be self-governing and to learn how to manage their property and the duties expected of them. These lessons learned in the home are valuable in every other arena.
- When families require the accountability of regular chores, parents have occasion to address many other character issues: obedience - doing what you're asked to do; thoroughness - completing a task and doing it well; initiative - seeing what needs to be done and doing it without being asked; perseverance - learning to do something even if you don't feel like it. Children become successful as their character is refined.
- Teaching children to do chores helps establish a work ethic - the ability and the willingness to work. This ability and mindset learned at home translates to success in the classroom, on a sports team, learning to play an instrument, and someday, succeeding in the work world.
Why Teach Kids Chores? September 09 2014
Most parents agree that teaching your kids chores or helping around the house, is a good idea. One that is easily believed but not that easy to incorporate into family routines. Why? Kids resist, plain and simple. But knowing we parent with the long view in mind, we know it is valuable to face the battle of wills and teach our kids to do chores.
Learning to do chores is part of that bigger goal of teaching responsibility - and that is a multi-faceted word. I think any parent would agree that “responsibility” is in the top virtues we want our kids to learn when they are grown. What does responsibility look like? Here are some thoughts.... Responsibility is:
- doing what you are asked
- completing the task
- doing the job thoroughly
- managing your property (clothes, toys, $, possessions)
- being where you are supposed to be
- achieving your potential
- self-governing (I especially like this definition!)
The list could go on, but suffice it to say that over the years of raising our children we want to grow ourselves out of a job, as our children grow in responsibility.
So where do we start. Most experts I consulted agreed that the sooner the better - stating that 2 1/2 - 3 years old is a good age to start. Children learn from a young age, that contributing to the household is part of living there. If someone wants to spiritualize the concept, it states in II Thess. 3:10 “We also gave you the rule that if you don’t work, you don’t eat” (a little extreme but you get the point). If you have no idea what a 3 year old is capable of, we have a great chart that is categorized by age. Don’t wait - start small, but start. Just like Rome, responsibility isn’t built in a day - it takes years!
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Don’t let “not knowing” prevent you from starting to teach your kids chores. Download the “Age Appropriate Chores for Kids” chart and start today.
Welcome to Family Tools July 23 2014
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